WIW 10/15-10/21: Week 20--Road testing my old maternity clothes

Week 20, halfway there now and my non-maternity clothes are not really fitting that well anymore--the pants and pencil skirts are too tight to zip up and the tops, even if they are stretchy enough to fit are getting too short to cover the whole belly. So I thought it's probably time to start pulling out the old maternity wear. Well, there is less of it than I thought--basically one shopping bag full and most of it is loungewear T shirts and nursing pajamas. Here is the best of what I have--mostly all from Japanese Weekend, mostly printed empire waist tops with hidden holes for nursing access and some stretchy wide leg jersey pants. I do have a few more pieces than these, but not a whole lot, maybe about another week's worth. And my sister and sister in law lent me a few pieces, but not anything that is dressy enough for work and mostly not my style either. Most of my maternity wear is from six years ago.

So, let me know your honest opinion of these outfits--are they dated? I have a really bad eye for what is dated and I'm not sure if my maternity wardrobe is up to YLF standards. I felt OK in these, but definitely not as super fab as in my post-YLF wardrobe. I think #4 and #9 were probably the closest to my current style. The main "compliments" I got this week were along the lines of, "Wow, your belly really popped!"

If you don't think these look good, I may have some shopping to do. I was hoping to get away with not buying any more maternity since this is my last baby and only have 4.5 months left, but I may have to break down and buy a limited amount of maternity wear, because my capsule is a lot thinner than I thought. I don't really even feel like shopping nowadays but I may have to. And I'm also dreading going through my closet and having to try everything on and put away everything that doesn't fit anymore, but I think it needs to be done. The racks are going to be half empty (or more) after that!

1-2. Japanese Weekend black nursing top and blue and white printed maternity skirt (still had the blue toenails from the wedding). Circa 2007.
3. JW magenta top with white faux collar/sleeves. Old Navy maternity trousers.
4-5. JW black and white maternity top and black skirt.
6. Maternity top from 2010 (gift from my mom). JW jersey pants.
7-8. JW brown and white nursing top. Sadly these white Gap maternity jeans which I just bought a couple months ago don't fit at all and are unwearable! I tried them on and they are too tight in the legs and won't stay up so the crotch is like 2 inches below where it needs to be. Too late to return them though! Big mistake. :( So I had to change into #9 instead.
9. Japanese Weekend striped top (new this pregnancy) and old JW jeans (too short for the sandals I wore them with--I think these are really for flats only, but I don't have any other maternity jeans to wear with heels).

And on a really sad note, two weeks ago I found out that my friend (who has a daughter in K with mine, and twins the same age as my DS, and was expecting a boy just like me) had a stillbirth at 35 weeks. We just met this family through DD's school this year, but have grown close over the last couple months since our families and kids' ages are so similar. They were devastated and I was in shock when I heard. They called me from the hospital and I was busy helping them out, visiting them, bringing them food etc. They asked me to let all the other K parents in our school know and I wrote an email to everyone. That was really hard and emotional, I would cry every time I read the email I sent (because people would respond asking what they could do and my email was attached to their reply). I set up an online meal sign up and the school parents were great, we got six weeks' worth of meals set up for them. I was feeling emotionally drained because it made me so sad for them and kept wondering how I could ever deal with it if something like that happened to me, and worried that being around me would always remind her of her lost baby and that it would always be a source of pain for her, and physically exhausted as well, because I was getting over a cold and had post-URI asthma and couldn't breathe, and coughing a lot and was getting winded just going up stairs (I ended up on albuterol inhaler for a few days).

That's why I didn't post any WIW's during that time--I was basically in loungewear most of that week because I didn't feel like dressing up. Then we had the big Sedona trip for my sister's wedding and that was a lot of work and since we were at altitude I still was having a little trouble breathing. Now I'm finally feeling better physically, but still very sad for my friend. I've visited her several times and she is out of the hospital now and doing better, but still very sad. Her original due date is coming up soon and I am going to give her an Etsy necklace that I had made with her children's names and an angel wing with her baby's name. I'm still tearing up a lot when I think of how sad I am for her.

So big picture, my silly maternity clothes worries are nothing compared to the awful things that can happen in this world. The one good thing is that I had my 19 week ultrasound and everything looks normal and my baby looks healthy so far. That I am very thankful for.

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  • Mander replied 8 years ago

    IMHO they are all fine, though I do agree that the last pair of jeans look too short for heels. Bummer about the white ones because they look great with the top!

    Mostly I wanted to reply and say how sad I am for your friend. I have heard from many people that our culture today tends to ignore the pain of miscarriage and by extension the families that experience it. I'm glad that you have been able to help her out and get others to organize comforting words and meals. The necklace sounds like a lovely idea.

  • TraceyLiz65 replied 8 years ago

    I think they all look good. Would buying a new pair of white jeans be helpful to your wardrobe and worth it? If so maybe you should just find a new pair..

    So sorry to hear about you friend's loss. Your response when they reached out to you was wonderful. Being around you may at times bring things up for them, and if they find it too difficult may pull away. That would be natural, especially since it is a newer friendship.

    Sorry to her about the breathing issues and hope that stays under control. .

  • lyn* replied 8 years ago

    I agree with you that the outfits are cute, but not really up to Natalie-Post-YLF cute! I think the one I like the least is the top in #6 (sorry, Natalie's mom!) - I think #1/2 and #4/5 are my favorites :)

    I am sorry to hear about your friend; it must be difficult to have a stillbirth at any time during a pregnancy, much more so one during the end weeks. You have been very kind to reach out to help her out in such a big way, I bet it must help her out a ton.

    How much more work are you planning to do? I know some people work up until week 37 and 38 if their health allows; if this is so, I think it's probably worth it to get some fab maternity wear for work to beef out your capsule and so that this momma can feel fab ;)

  • missvee replied 8 years ago

    I think all the outfits are just fine. As Lyn says, how long are you planning to work? Maybe one or two new outfits, combined with what you've got, would see you through. I'm a penny pincher by nature, so I'd like you to save money now for some post baby splurges! I'm sorry about your friend's sad news; that's a very tough blow. What a nice friend you have been to help out. Take care of yourself.

  • Krista replied 8 years ago

    I don't see "dated" at all, I see pretty and feminine! I agree with the others that you might need a few more things but I don't think a "big shop" is required.

    You are an amazing friend for all of the things you have done over the past few weeks. I can't imagine how tough it has been for you. Take care!

  • Scarlet replied 8 years ago

    I think you are still looking great, Natalie, but I think it would make sense to get a few new things to pep up your mood. It really doesn't have to be expensive stuff either. A lot of the things I bought are from H&M, Mango, and Zara, just sized up from usual. This way I was able to define my own style more than to be limited by what is available in maternity styles. I also bought some scarves and costume jewelry to dress up plain maternity stuff.
    I am so sorry for your friend. That just sounds so devastating. It sounds like you have thought of a beautiful gift. I think it is nice to mark the occasion instead of pretending nothing has happened, which is what a lot of people would do.
    You looked great in those wedding photos. I never would have guess you weren't feeling so hot.

  • cheryle (Dianthus) replied 8 years ago

    I really like the outfit in #3, the top in #1/2, and the top in #7/8. I think the striped top in the last photo is on trend. You look cute in them all.

    When I was pregnant, I bought a few pairs of neutral pants, jeans, a skirt, and a few nice tops that works with all the bottoms. You are going to want to buy some fab new pieces after the baby is born so why not try to keep it minimal for now and don't sweat it. A few new tops should be able to carry you through.

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend. That would be very hard and you are a great friend to have pitched in and helped so much.

  • Isabel replied 8 years ago

    I am also responding to your friend's tragedy. Each person handles it differently. So ask them. Something similar happened to me, though I wasn't as far along as your friend and I had no other children at the time. My best friend, who also had no children at the time, got pregnant and was "afraid" to tell me or be around me because she thought it would be upsetting. Just the opposite happened ! I was soooo happy and I loved being around her during that time.

    ANd of course, it hit very close to home. It is a tragedy. You are going to be fine and you are strong. Do what you can but also don't be too hard on yourself. You need to be safe.


  • Transcona Shannon replied 8 years ago

    How incredibly sad for your friend Natalie - my sister had a stillbirth at 33 weeks and it was just devastating. I'm so sorry.

    As for your outfits, I think they all look just fine. Your jackets, handbags and shoes are all newer and fabulicious and they go a long way to making your maternity clothes look current as well. Personally, I'm not sure I'd buy too much in terms of maternity wear since you're not really in them that long and after you have your sweet baby, you may want to buy some non maternity wear.

    You're looking so good Natalie - glowing and beautiful!

  • Ingunn replied 8 years ago

    I think everything looks good on you! No need for anything new, but a couple of items will always pick up your mood and make you feel current. I agree that the money are better spent later, when the baby is here.

    I'm terribly sorry for your friend's loss. The loss of a child, stillborn or later, is always devastating to the parents, I would think. How lucky for them to have friends like you in their dark hour.

  • RandomThoughts (Andrea) replied 8 years ago

    Hey lady,

    If I haven't said it already (due to my sporadic presence) *congratulations* on your new family member. How exciting! I'm so very sorry to hear about your friend. Grief works in different ways for many people. They may pull away (possibly just for a while) or they may take an interest in your new babe as being special. I think it really just depends upon how they process.

    As for your outfits, I don't think they look dated. #3 is not my fave only because we can see the waistband. I think the other outfits are very cute though much more casual than our usual Natalie Fantastic. The last one is my favorite. Shame about the white jeans.

    As Lynn said if you'll be working a while longer perhaps you can treat yourself to an outfit or two. You'll use them. :)


  • MNsara replied 8 years ago

    I this every you look fab in all except maybe those last jeans (PPL). Can the heam just be let out and ironed flat. It would add about an inch and be very casual, but they are pretty casual jeans anyway.

    You shoud treat yourself to a top or two and one new bottom from H&M maternity, or Liz Lange at Target, or similar. They wouldn't cost much but 4.5 months is long enough to get very tired of wearing the same things. Yet, if you wait another month or so, there's even less time to enjoy them.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. How kind of you to organize help and support for them. My niece lost a baby at 38 weeks and it was SO sad, but they were able to have a fine healthy baby about a year later. I hope the same for your friend.

  • Kiwichik replied 8 years ago

    I don't think they look dated espeially if the shoes & other accessories are current however I do think you should add a few more pieces to add sone more versatility.

  • qfbrenda replied 8 years ago

    The clothes look fine to me. They don't look like your outstanding style but they will work fine. You don't have that long to go and I wouldn't do much shopping if you can avoid it.

    I feel very badly for your friend. :( I lost babies at 35 and 32 weeks and it is devastating. I'm so sorry.

  • Zapotee replied 8 years ago

    You are the cutest preggie woman ever! I love everything and no, it does not look dated to me, at all.

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