WIW 10/26-28: burgundy skinnies, 2nd cobalt dress (and my Mom's style)

I had a really busy weekend--my cousin got married and DS was the ringbearer for the second time in 2 weeks! He's a pro now! Friday was the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, Saturday morning DD had a ballet observation performance, and the whole rest of the day was the wedding and reception (about an hour away from our house). Then Sunday we had swimming lessons with the kids, and then I threw a surprise party for DH's 40th birthday. So the weekend was totally packed! I'm exhausted!

Here are my WIW's--the first one is my new maternity clothes from this K/R thread:
http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....y-skinnies
The second is the runner-up cobalt dress that I didn't wear to my sister's wedding. (Here are the pics from that wedding: http://goldenpig.lookfab.com/p.....na-wedding) I was trying to decide between the black lace B44 dress (http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....yay-or-nay) but ended up going with this one--less body con so more appropriate for an afternoon church wedding. DS was so adorable in his little infant tux! For the party I went super casual with an old Japanese Weekend maternity top & jeans.

My mom was staying with us this weekend, and I also saw her at my sister's wedding, so as a bonus I thought it would be fun to include her pics, so you could see some of her WIW's (and how they compare to what I was wearing at the same time!). When I was growing up, I was always embarrassed at how my mom wore so much makeup and jewelry and high heels and always seemed overdressed, like she was going to a gala instead of the grocery. I also thought she wore clothes that were too tight and too flashy/glitzy and young looking for her. (She likes to shop at Forever 21, for example, which I thought was so fitting!). I was never interested in fashion like she was, until just recently. I "rebelled" by not wearing makeup, deliberately underdressing, and not really caring what I wore. Even after I joined YLF and got more interested in fashion, I was very sensitive about not wanting to dress like my mother and hated it when my DH said I was turning into her (like this thread from a year ago: http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....-my-mother).

But after a year of figuring out my own style, and now looking at these latest pics, I think I've kind of softened my stance on my mom's style. I can now appreciate her longstanding interest in fashion and see how her style is totally consistent with her personality--she likes to be in charge and the center of attention, and to look youthful and current. One of the greatest compliments for her is to be mistaken for my sister (which actually happened again when we went to watch DD's ballet performance, one of the other ballet moms told my mom she couldn't believe that we weren't sisters!). She loves lots of bling, like statement necklaces and sequins and ballgowns (I can only handle it in small doses). I thought I was pretty dressy, but she still way outshines me in dressiness levels. And she's even more on-trend than I am (like her going to the airport outfit with the colored skinnies and cold shoulder polka dot top). I used to think that she dressed so age-inappropriately, but now after seeing women of all ages wearing the latest fashions I'm like "OK, if she wants to follow the latest trends, who am I to say she can't?" Now that I'm more secure in my style persona, I don't mind if you say I take after her a little, or that she's more fashion-forward than I am! I still don't necessarily want to dress like her, but at least now I can appreciate her style! I think we are both having fun with fashion in our own ways!

1-3. Rehearsal dinner. Maternity burgundy skinnies, floral top and grey cascade cardigan, leopard ballet flats, orange and bronze cuff and orange leopard pendant. My mom with the bride & groom and my mom's sister.
4-5. DD's ballet performance. I just wore the same outfit as #1 because we were changing right after into the wedding dresses.
6-14. Wedding. JS Boutique sequin waist cobalt dress, Seychelles wedge sandals. I didn't have time to do my makeup or hair (not that I ever do). DS did great--he made it down the aisle without crying! #12 is my mom with two of her sisters (who are actually younger than my mom).
15-16. DH's surprise bday party. DD is playing doctor and checking the baby.
17-21. More of my mom's WIW's. #21 is me with my mom and one of my sisters at the Sedona wedding.

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11 Comments

  • Deborah replied 6 years ago

    Natalie, thanks for sharing your photos and I loved hearing about how you have processed and traveled the road of acceptance and appreciation of your mum's style.
    Your mum is a lovely looking woman and quite glam. In none of these pictures does she look age inappropriate. It can be hard sometimes to see our mums as anything other than our 'mum'. There are so many other facets to who they are than just being our mum and clearly fashion is one of your mum's passions.. it's cool.

  • missvee replied 6 years ago

    These are lovely pictures of you and your family. It's good that you've become more accepting of your mom's style as your own style has matured. Each to his own, right?

  • Zapotee replied 6 years ago

    Thank you Natalie for sharing. You are looking more beautiful and stylish than ever and the kiddos are a blast. I am so happy you are have turned around to your mom's style. I personally think she is awesome. Good for her. That is one beautiful family!

  • JamC replied 6 years ago

    You look great in every photo! Your Mom certainly takes care of herself which is a good thing. Your new understanding of her and fashion must feel peaceful.

  • Scarlet replied 6 years ago

    I still think that blue dress is just SO pretty on you. Too bad that it is too fancy for more frequent outings. That was really interesting to read how you are starting to see your mom's style in a different light. It's nice that you are coming more together over time. I also really like the rehearsal outfit. The necklace is a perfect addition. Also you get a gold star for energy. I would be totally wiped out after all that.

  • Joy replied 6 years ago

    Natalie, you look great in your rehersal and wedding outfits. Your mother can rock the red lipstick and skinnies. She looks stunning in the deep red dress for the wedding. Yesterday I went to a memorial service for a friend's mother held at the assisted living facility where she had lived. Many of the residents who had known her spoke of how stylish or glamourous she was, including the assistant who came to help her dress each day. Your mother reminds me of her. I'm glad that you can find common ground in having fun with fashion in your own ways. After that weekend, you need some extra naps this week!

  • N-Marie replied 6 years ago

    You look so fantastic in all of these pictures. Your mom is indeed quite glam but I wouldn't say she outshines you - your style fits you so well that you wear it unconsciously and comfortably and that really makes YOU sparkle (even without the bling). But it's good that you and your mom now have an interest in fashion, and also good that she is taking such great care of herself.

    Your kids are gorgeous- both the ballet pics and the toddler tux, so cute!

  • JulieJohn replied 6 years ago

    Natalie, I really enjoyed reading your post. You share your feelings beautifully, thank you for that. You look so pretty in your wedding gear, such a slim pregnant lady, I can tell you are taking good care of yourself and the babe. Happy Birthday, Mr. Goldenpig! (Mom is fab too, I dig her independence.)

  • ramya replied 6 years ago

    Ok GP you are fab as always but your kiddos have stolen my heart :)

  • Debora replied 6 years ago

    You are STUNNING, Natalie, and what a beautiful family you have! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on mother/ daughter style. It's wonderful that you can appreciate her style and each have fun with fashion in your own way.

  • celia replied 6 years ago

    Natalie, you look so adorable with your bump , although I have to say that once you post pictures of your sweet and cute babies I can't concentrate that well on you :)

    Regarding your mom, we do have some similarities here, my mom is a very dramatic dresser, she is bold in her choices , likes her make-up and accessories and always stands out.
    Although I didn't rebel against that I was always the opposite, a very conservative and not very daring dresser. With YLF I managed to be more adventurous because I know that you all will keep me true to myself and not turn into my mom(that is also the worst thing DH can say to me).

    Bottom line, your mom and mine are true to themselves and we are glad about that, we just want to be ourselves :)

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