WIW 6/15: Pretty in pink

I'm wearing pink to support another woman physician who created a wonderful style forum (like YLF for women physicians) and some of her male colleagues found out. It was a closed, private group but someone in the group showed her pics to other male doctors who are in a national board that she is an elected member of. She was told that it was unprofessional to be posting about fashion and was threatened with the loss of her board membership. So she had to delete all her photos and videos and leave the group she created. It makes me so angry! She is an amazing clinician, gives lectures, has 4 kids, power lifts, goes on date nights--she does it all and still finds time to mentor other women docs and help us look good too. That group is nothing but uplifting and has made such a positive difference in the lives of almost 3000 women. So we are all wearing pink today to show our support for her. Roses and thorns necklace and bracelet to show that we can be pretty and tough. If you try to mess with us, watch out!

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35 Comments

  • greycat6 replied 1 year ago

    Good for you! I love taking a stand without saying a word. Images are so powerful.

    By the way, you look fab! I wouldn't want to mess with you! :)

  • AviaMariah replied 1 year ago

    All I can say is Wow.  Both to your outfit and what was said to your colleague.  

  • MsMary replied 1 year ago

    Great outfit, great statement!

    And I love your little photobomber!

  • Diana replied 1 year ago

    Argh this makes me so MAD! (The reprimand, I mean, not your outfit.)  Good for you for taking a stand.  You look great!  Love the roses and thorns theme.

    For the record, I think sports fans make a MUCH bigger fool of themselves in public on a regular basis, and that's NEVER called into question.  Grrr.

  • Diana replied 1 year ago

    PS - I love your Ninja Turtle photobomber!

  • Chris987 replied 1 year ago

    Lovely outfit. Can't imagine how small-minded that manager must be. How is being interested in fashion of any harm to anyone, under any circumstances? I suppose if your colleague was wearing uber short cropped tops exposing her navel and wearing t-shirts with x-rated  slogans then maybe the boss would have cause....but given how classy your style is I suspect that is not the case for your colleague.

    It can't be a credibility buster...physicians have their creds posted right there in their offices. And having a few interests outside of work usually makes you better at what your job, research has verified this.. Good for you for standing up to them!

  • Ledonna N. replied 1 year ago

    Having to choose my words very carefully right now.

    First what s beautiful fit and a great way to unite and show support in a subtle way. You are kick butt. Your son is a cutie.

    Next this just grinds my gears. Does it detract from the work that is done? I'm gonna make the assumption that it does not. Hmmmm how this is some real issue on the work place boggles the mind. Wow

  • BrieN replied 1 year ago

    You look wonderful today as always.

    That reprimand is a power play. 2,000 women getting to know each other over a shared interest is networking and building a power base. Not to mention the help they were giving each other navigating the minefield that is appearance and clothing. 

    Would a fantasy football league be treated the same way?  Why are traditionally women's interests any less professional then men's interests??

  • rachylou replied 1 year ago

    Pretty is as pretty does!

  • UmmLila replied 1 year ago

    Looking good. Maybe you can inadvertently impale someone annoying with your bracelet.

  • Sara L. replied 1 year ago

    You look great and I love that skirt.  I also love how your shoes match your skirt. 

    That just makes me so angry that she was threatened with her board membership.  How is fashion detracting from her job as a physician?

  • RobinF replied 1 year ago

    Wow, so none of the male colleagues have outside interests apart from work? Crazy.

    But you look great. Go get 'em!

  • crazyone replied 1 year ago

    I just hand washed that skirt yesterday so I can wear it soon. Will be thinking of your fellow female physician, that is utterly ridiculous to be threatened with board certification removal for an innocuous hobby. Yet I'm sure there are plenty of male doctors protected from allegations of sexual harassment by these organizations...

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    That is just plain mean and small. What a stupid manager and what a great thing you and the other women are doing to show support! And, what C1 said. These guys should get their heads examined. This is sexism, pure and simple. 

  • J.J. replied 1 year ago

    I dunno if this is fair- but care to share the name of the Board?  So we could find out which doctors NEVER TO EVER GO SEE, EVER?

  • Xtabay replied 1 year ago

    Yikes, can you say "harassment lawsuit"?  It sure sounds like harassment.  But I guess it's rare for physicians to sue one another.  I wish she'd stood up to them -- YLF would have backed her up!  I vote we send those old boys a big bundle of thorns.

  • Karin L H replied 1 year ago

    You look amazing! And what a wonderful way to support your colleague. But, what a terrible thing that's happened to her. It just shows how "female" subjects like fashion are put down by men! How could that be unprofessional, why would such a forum even have anything to do with her job? Would they think it was unprofessional if she wrote about... hunting, or something else more "manly"? This is soooo annoying - and it should definitely be a case of harassment as Xtaby mentions!

  • Peri replied 1 year ago

    And yet if she were running for office her clothes would be all anyone wanted to talk about. 

    Is she finding any other way to fight back? Or does she just have to do what they say? I'd really like to stay posted on this story. 

  • Aida replied 1 year ago

    Sigh, how sad Natalie. I think it's lovely that the group is showing such support! You look super and I'm sure everyone else does, too.

  • Beth Ann replied 1 year ago

    You look terrific, Natalie.  The sweater is lovely, and the eyelet detail in the skirt is feminine, but bold in the hot pink.

    I'm overwhelmed with feeling regarding your friend's treatment by her colleagues.  Surely there's an attorney somewhere to remind them of personal rights?   So glad she finding support from the rest of you!

  • shevia replied 1 year ago

    That made me so angry. I cannot believe they threatened her that way. I am not in favor of the lawsuit culture, but they should be sued over this. Seriously.

  • Nebraskim replied 1 year ago

    I'm with Shevia on this. That is sexism and harassment. Her hobbies hurt no one. Sometimes doctors can be so 19th Century it makes me crazy. (BTW, you look stunning.)

  • Gail replied 1 year ago

    That really stinks and I'm glad you are all taking a stand. Your outfit is fab as always by the way.
    Ps better watch out "they" will be monitoring your YLF posts next, seriously don't they have anything better to do ??

  • Caro in Oz replied 1 year ago

    I really struggle with this cr** I really do. It's great you are showing your support & I do understand about her career but I wonder if maybe she just should have said go ahead remove me & see what happens. 

  • Firecracker replied 1 year ago

    What a pretty outfit, and I love the thought behind it. That's a ridiculous thing to happen to the other physician.

  • Maneera replied 1 year ago

    This is appalling. Seriously? Do the male members of the board have no hobbies outside of work? Or do they never take photographs doing something besides their work?

    In fact, I'm pleased to see a doc who dresses well. It reassures me and I instantly feel like she won't be stuck-up. The whole doctors-are-nerds-and-should-dress-that-way idea is such a cliche.

    Good of you to take a stand for her, Natalie. Pretty in pink, for sure!

  • goldenpig replied 1 year ago

    Thanks all. I can't believe that at a time when we may be about to elect our first woman president, we still have men who want to control what women can or can't wear and think they can determine what is appropriate or professional, in a private group no less. I'm sure no one would call them out for posting pics of themselves acting crazy at sports events or hunting or driving fancy sports cars or golfing, etc. etc. Why should posting about fashion be any less acceptable? I don't know exactly what they were objecting to, maybe the pics of her powerlifting getup or the top down angle of her selfies that shows some cleavage. I don't know the details of the board or what happened. Anyways it doesn't matter because the fact is it brought everyone together and made us more resolved to shine on and be strong. Today there were hundreds of posts from women docs all wearing pink in solidarity. And a bunch of lurkers even came out to post for the first time in the group. There are almost 3000 in the group now! Seeing all the smiling faces in a sea of pink brought tears to my eyes. And the best news is that today she finally came back and posted herself in a pink dress and wrote a long talk about how she decided to stand up for herself and talked to her colleagues and refused to let them dictate her life. It's too bad all her old posts are gone (she had a bunch of video tutorials), but we are so glad to have her back in the group! She is such an inspiration and the group helps so many women docs feel good about themselves! Glad there's a happy ending!

  • Nebraskim replied 1 year ago

    Yay. It's time that women say "ENOUGH of your sexist crap." The ONLY way to get men to stop belittling women is to call out their BS. Thank you Natalie for being powerful. If I lived in Cali, I would definitely want you for my personal doc.

  • Angie replied 1 year ago

    Very fresh and pretty in pink. DS2 is ADORABLE. 

  • shedev replied 1 year ago

    I'm glad that she is standing up for herself. I hope that the fuss dies down quickly and that your group can return to normal. This really should have been a non issue.

  • Eliza replied 1 year ago

    You look amazing as you stand in solidarity. 

    I consider the objections you described a "false dichotomy". 

  • Tanya replied 1 year ago

    You are looking gorgeous in this pink outfit, Natalie. The whole story about your colleague makes me sad and angry, but ai am also very impressed with her, she sounds like a role model for women.

  • Vix replied 1 year ago

    Hi GP --

    Wow, what a story -- very pleased it had a happy ending with her return to your group.

    Give credit to yourself and the other docs for showing your solidarity with her; the support may have made her see that what she was doing was well within the bounds of professional ethics and she didn't need to feel shamed by the board members. [Who as you say probably have some public and "unprofessional" photos/comments among them that would not hold up well to scrutiny....]

    Sounds like your group has a lot of networking and change-making power within it. Here's to the founder and the participants (and yes you looked great in the pink!).

  • Momo replied 1 year ago

    Wow! That makes me so angry .
    Your outfit makes me happy though . Great color !

  • kimlee replied 1 year ago

    I am so sorry about what happened to your friend. I think you look stunning in pink!

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